men at large feel like they are being robbed of something when an attractive woman with a 90% chance of developing breast cancer gets a double mastectomy
what better illustration of the male sense of sexual entitlement do you need
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We love classic Trek, because, there, Kirk is not a womanizer.
This is part of why this episode disturbed me so much. Because it’s almost fifty years later and this isn’t part of the Captain Kirk character that makes it into the remakes. Because there’s nothing alien at all to me about Charlie’s anger, how he lashes out with horrific consequenses at the women around him who don’t immediately return his affections and dare to enjoy the company of other men (and with the exception of the man he disappears in the gym all his victims that we see are women).
Almost fifty years, and all I can think about when I watch this is how this one scene from this one episode of a low-budget space show with women in revealing costumes and its own share of problematic shit is more up front and no-nonsense about telling teenage boys and the men they grow up to be that your feelings do not trump the feelings of women than the overwhelming majority of the rest of our popular culture today.
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"Suppose a man makes unwanted social advances to a woman in, let’s say, a restaurant or theatre, and she eventually has to tell him loudly or angrily to get lost. She is the one who will be perceived as rude, hostile, aggressive, and obnoxious. His verbal aggression and invasiveness are accepted and expected; her rudeness (or mere curtness) in getting rid of him is noticed and condemned. One of our great myths is that a “real lady” can and should handle any difficulty, defuse any assault, without ever raising her voice or losing her manners. Female rudeness or violence in resistance to male aggression has often been taken to prove that the woman was not a lady in the first place, and therefore deserved no respect from the aggressor or sympathy from others."
D.A. Clarke, “A Woman With a Sword” (via foodbeersexwhatever)
If you thought I was only going to reblog this once you were dead wrong
(via callingoutbigotry)
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In which Marina Diamandis continues to be a queen and shuts down body policing
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I rang the literary editors of a few ‘respected’ papers and asked them how much space they were giving to women writers in their ‘review’ sections. Perfectly predictable response. They all said the allocation was fair. One said it was equal, and one prominent editor went so far as to say women are dominating the reviews!
… What happened when I asked who was doing the talking in mixed sex conversations? Well, it was the women of course. And then when you get to measure it you find that women get to talk about 10-20% of the time in conversations with men. A woman who talks about a third of the time is seen to be dominating the talk.
And what happened when I asked teachers who got their attention in class? Well, it was all equal, wasn’t it? No preferences there. And you measure it and find that girls get about 10-20% of the teacher’s attention. Any more, and the boys think it unfair - and go into revolt.
So what do you think I found with the reviews?
I would have predicted about 10-20% of the space went to women’s books. Well, it is less than 6% of the column inches. And the reasonable editor who thinks that women are getting more than their share is one of the worst offenders. Poor boys! It really tells you something when they think only 94% of the review section is not enough, doesn’t it? When 6% for women is too much you get some idea how much men think they are entitled to - as a fair deal.
"Dale Spender, correspondence, in Dale and Lynne Spender, Scribbling Sisters (Camden Press, 1986), pp. 31-32 (via radtransfem) -
what you fail to realize is that video games shouldn’t cater to females in the first place. It’s largely known that it’s targeted towards the MALE demographic and has been for so many years, so why would they ask for something like that to be handed to them on a goddamn silver platter?
that’s like a guy walking into the women’s department of clothing at a sears and demanding that there be more clothing for men there. Separation of sections be damned.
that’s not how it fucking works
no not really
the game industry is more like walking into a regular department store and seeing that all the clothes are only men’s clothes
and when you ask the cashier where the women’s clothing section is, they wheel out a small rack of cheaply made tutus, g-strings, and high heels all in bright pink
and then when you go “wow really that’s it” you get called an uppity bitch and everybody assumes you want all the focus on you when in reality you’d just like to be considered a worthwhile demographic since you also like to wear clothes, it’s not like you want some ridiculous getup, you just want a solid shirt and pair of pants that fits you alright.
I mean hell you even sort of like men’s clothes and you have no problem wearing them. They suit you well. But it’s very obvious once you throw on a pair of men’s pants that they were not made for you.
^^^
Perfect metaphor is perfect.
“what you fail to realize is that video games shouldn’t cater to females in the first place”
what the everloving fuck
The amount of misogyny in gaming circles is at a ridiculous proportion nowadays. And I mean misogyny: it is outright hatred toward women.
Anything that combats that is a good thing. Also: I have trouble in relationships when women don’t or won’t play video games.
People should stop treating games like they’re some sort of secret club, and start treating them like the art/medium forms they are. No one argued that women weren’t allowed to read books or watch movies, why act like they can’t play games, or have games that ‘cater’ to them?
Though real talk here: most things that companies write for women suck really hard. It’s not the fault of women in general, but because companies think we’re stupid and fine with twilight, imagine baby sitter, and 39210740974349017 bad romantic comedies a year. I’m more fed up with the corporate notion seems to be ‘female audience = no substance what so ever’. Like… stop it media companies. Just stop.
It’s blowing my mind how someone can compare a women’s clothes shop to an entire medium of storytelling, what.
Ok so why aren’t women allowed in? And what exactly is ‘catering to women’ anyway?
I’m going to take a guess and say they probably feel like their habit of warping women into these twisted soulless dolls might be at stake. Oh man, you might have to treat female characters like… characters. Shit, actual women, I want a blow-up doll that I can control with my hands. Sorry we’re calling you out on your bullshit boys, I didn’t realise that writing about and designing characters that feel like they are plausible real world people was catering towards women. It’s unhealthy, it’s training yourself to be attracted to this diluted ridiculous thing that gets tangled up and projected over what you expect from the real world. How dare these ugly harpies from reality that could never compare to my perfect polygons (because I can’t control them) get in the way of my ability to play with my little delicate sock puppets? How dare they ask for respect! The sex dolls on my screen bend over backwards for me and they don’t require respect, so why do these… real girls?
I mean what else can they worried about us changing in the industry?
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Leading Men Age, Leading Women Don’t | Vulture
There are more charts if you click through.
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at monash university in melbourne the women’s department had a bake sale and cupcakes were one dollar for men and eighty cents for women and seventy cents for trans* people to represent the wage gap and heaps of guys kicked off about it being sexist and that’s how i finally understood how hypocritical and ignorant men’s rights activism is
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How the Logic of "Friendzoning" Would Work If Applied in Other Instances:
- *Man walks into a store and finds employee*
- Man: Alright, I've had enough. Why haven't you guys hired me?!
- Employee: Uh...well sir, when did you put in your application?
- Man: I never filled out an application.
- Employee: Well sir, we can't consider you for employment if you've never filled out an application.
- Man: No, that's bullshit, because I've been coming here for years now, and every single time I tell you all how much I love this store and how much I appreciate your customer service, unlike some of your other customers might I add!
- Employee: Well, but that doesn't-
- Man: AND I even told you that I didn't have a job!
- Employee: But sir, that doesn't indicate to us that you would like a job at our store. And again, if you've never filled out an application, we can't consider you. Besides, we're not hiring.
- Man: OH! Not hiring, HA! What a laugh. I see your store go through seasonal workers all the time. They come and go like nothing, but you won't consider me as a part-time employee even though I KNOW you've been looking for workers to fill positions? That's insane!
- Employee: Sir, we've been looking to hire a few people for management positions. Do you have any management experience?
- Man: Well no, but what does that matter?
- Employee: ...Well sir, that's what we're looking for. You won't be suitable for the position without management experience.
- Man: Oh that's such a load of crap. You know, you'll be waiting around a long time for a manager if you don't lower your standards a little. Who cares if someone knows how to manage a store? I LOVE this store and I'm willing to work here, that's all that should matter to you.
- Employee: That...doesn't make any sense.
- Man: NO! I'm done. This is over. From now on, no more Mr. Nice Guy.
- Employee:
- Man:
- Employee:
- Man: Fuck you, slut.
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pretty much my favourite commercial ever ft. strong ladies taking nobody’s bullshit (x)
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"Rape jokes are not jokes. Woman-hating jokes are not jokes. These guys are telling you what they think. When you laugh along to get their approval, you give them yours. You tell them that the social license to operate is in force; that you’ll go along with the pact to turn your eyes away from the evidence; to make excuses for them; to assume it’s a mistake, of the first time, or a confusing situation. You’re telling them that they’re at low risk."Thomas Macaulay Millar, Meet The Predators (via autopsyblue)
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Nicki Minaj casually dismantles sexism while applying her eyeliner
This was, legitimately, my very first impression of Nicki Minaj. And this is the reason why, to this day, I have the utmost respect for her, even though I don’t like all of her music.
I watch this every time it pops up my dash and it never stops being excellent.
This did everything BUT make her look stupid.
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"A key feature of sexism, as with oppression against any group, is that there is an institutionalized power differential between the oppressor group (men in the case of sexism) and the oppressed group (in sexism, women). Oppression is popularly described by the formula: oppression = prejudice + power. Though oversimplified, this formula corrects the often mistaken belief that prejudice by itself is oppressive, giving rise to misinformed notions such as “reverse racism” and “reverse sexism.”
While individual women or women as a whole may enact prejudicial biases toward specific men or toward men as a group, this is done so without the backing of a societal system of institutional power. If all U.S. presidents were women, if our economic and political infrastructures were run predominately by women, and if men’s shelters were required to protect men from widespread abuse by their female partners, perhaps “reverse sexism” would have the required institutional power to make it a meaningful phrase."The Fabric of Internalized Sexism, Journal of Integrated Social Sciences (2009) -
Isn’t it humbling to write hundreds and hundreds of words about sexism and gender and entitlement and then remember that “Flight of the Conchords” nailed the whole displacement-of-responsibility and nice-guy rage things in, like, four sentences?
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"With any of that Miley Cyrus shit, or any of that Vanessa Hudgens shit - I would never issue an apology for my life and for who I am. It’s like, ‘Oh, I’m sorry I took a naked, private picture that someone else is an asshole and sold for money. I’m sorry if someone else is a dick.’ No. You shouldn’t have to apologize. Someone betrayed Vanessa, but no one’s angry at that person. She had to apologize. I hate Disney for making her do that. Fuck Disney."
