1. "

    What about our fans? Are they privileged? Let me tell you about Anders. He was one of two male love interests in Dragon Age II, and the only one of the two that would actually make his intentions known to the player without the player expressing interest first. If you were nice to him, he would make a pass at you, and you could turn him down, and that would be the end of it. And some fans REALLY did not like that.

    Some of them asked for a gay toggle; because in a game where there’s mature themes, slavery, death, and none of which we offer toggles for, encountering a gay character? OOH, beyond the pale. They didn’t want to be exposed to homosexuality.

    And this one fan on our forums posted that he felt too much attention had been spent on women and gays and not enough on straight male gamers. For all of whom he personally spoke, of course. ‘It’s ridiculous that I even have to use a term like Straight Male Gamers, when in the past I would only have to say fans.’ The purpose of the romances in Dragon Age II was to give each type of fan an equal content. Two romances whether you’re male or female, straight or gay.

    How upsetting for this particular Straight Male Gamer to realize he wasn’t being catered to. This was not equality to him, but an imbalance; an imbalance of the natural order. He did not want equality, he’s not interested in equality. To him, from his perspective, equality means he’s getting less. Less options? Actually, no, the number of options we had in that game was actually the same number of options that he would have received earlier. What was his issue was the idea that there was attention being spent on other groups, which SHOULD have rightly gone to him.

    Do ALL straight male gamers feel exactly the same as he does? Absolutely not. In the thread where this came up in fact, there was quite a few guys who came in and identified themselves as straight male gamers and said ‘I actually don’t have an issue with that, as long as I receive an experience I enjoy, I think other people should be able to enjoy that too.’ But if you think that Straight Male Gamer Dude is an outlier among our fanbase, you were not paying attention.

    This is Anita Sarkeesian, she’s the author of the Feminist Frequency, a blog which examines tropes in the depiction of women in popular culture. You’ve probably all heard about this, it’s a matter of public record, she announced a Kickstarter to start a web series to look at the tropes in video games and she was subjected to a campaign of vicious abuse and harassment by male gamers. Why? Well, because she represents to these guys the loss of their coveted place in the gaming audience. Never mind that well all know Goddamn well that they’re still at the top of the totem pole. What they see themselves losing is sole proprietorship over their domain. That’s what it is.

    Everything that is changing about the gaming industry to accommodate these players, to them, is diluting the purity of gaming which has belonged solely to them. That’s what this is all about. And here’s the thing, I’m pretty certain that our industry fears the scrutiny of those guys way more than the scrutiny of everyone else. Because those are the guys that scream at the top of their lungs, they spend their time on every internet forum, they spend their time making Metacritic reviews. Infuriate them, and you become a target. It’s so much easier to say “Well, that’s what our fans are like. There’s nothing we can do.” And that’s bullshit.

    They didn’t set the tone, did they? We set the tone. What we put out there, what we permit, whether it’s on our forums, whether it’s on Xbox Live, the things that we permit we are in effect condoning. What happened to Anita, we the industry, are partly responsible for. We’re in part to blame. And if the idea of moral responsibility doesn’t phase you, consider the idea that the time will probably soon come that this will also amount to legal responsibility.

    "

    BioWare EA Writer David Gaider speaking on sexism and sexuality in video games. (via lolitsgabe)

    also known as “Why I Love And Support BioWare Games”

    (via optimisticduelist)

    Bioware ain’t perfect, but good gosh it does give me the warm fuzzies when one of their crew knocks it out of the park.

    (via northstarfan)

  2. "It’s when you’re kickin’ it with your boys and you don’t speak up (or maybe even join in) when the one dude is being called a “bitch” or a “pussy” because he didn’t hit on the girl you saw. It’s knowing street harassment is wrong but also knowing that you let your eyes linger way longer than was comfortable for her when she walked by you in those yoga pants. It’s that you find it impossible to have a debate with her without dismissing her opinion as the product of emotion or PMS, then reacting to her calling out your sexism with “I’m a nice guy!” It’s going on and on about how much misogyny, sexism, and patriarchy have entrenched themselves so deeply into our culture, then not understanding why she’s upset the only compliment you ever give her has to do with her looks. It’s all those things you’re not aware of but would be if you were actually listening to her."
  3. But breasts ARE sexual organs? They release oxytocin when stimulated, that makes them sexual.

    misanthrobot:

    thegoodnaysayer:

    algrenion:

    sundaydrives:

    pxstmxdern:

    seetobe:

    enrychan:

    allaboardthelarrybullship:

    algrenion:

    ive had to deal w this argument before ok listen here

    boobs do the oxytocin thing when theyre stimulated yes, nipples are an erogenous zone. Men’s nipples do this too. Now read over those two sentences and let the double standard dawn on you okay? Think about it if both kinds of nips release oxytocin when you do the touch touch on them, why is only one kind of nip considered a sexual nip? sexism that’s why

    it’s ridiculous and technically makes a dude’s nipples more inappropriate than a lady’s nipples because boy nipples serve virtually no other purpose than to be stimulated by temperature change or by sexual activity, while girl nipples serve the added purpose of oh you know, feeding babies no big deal

    but nah man nah both can be aroused so both nips are sexual or no nips are so make up your mind

    you know where else is an erogenous zone?? ears. Are you wearing an ear bra/?? Why the fuck arent you wearing your fucking ear bra you trash put on yoourfucking ear bra youre not allowed to show your fucking ears thats so inappropriate and its makinng me horny its distracting me from my school work youre not following the dresscode wear your fucking ear bra yo ufucking

    Things like this annoy me. I am feminist but SERIOUSLY. Boobs are genitalia. Accept it. And if you can’t then walk around in public topless. Completely topless. Enjoy embarrassing yourself.

    Breasts are not genitalia. They are secondary sex characteristics, just like facial hair is for men. If you need a complete description of what “genitalia” really are, read this article on wikipedia (some photos are NSFW).

    Our concept of topless being “shameful” and “embarassing” is purely cultural and it isn’t absolute. In other cultures women walk around topless and men simply don’t care. For them, seeing a woman’s breasts is as normal as seeing her face.

    Seriously.

    Oxytocin is released during labour which is about the least sexy time possible. We use artificial versions to induce labour/birth and it does absolutely nothing for arousal (in my experience it just makes things cramp and hurt and I only had the post-birth version). 

    Oxytocin is the LOVE (/connection) hormone which helps us bond with people including our children after a lot of pain (which breastfeeding is for many people which is why it’s useful there), it is not the fucking hormone (that’s more connected to testosterone). I’m not sure how that got confused. Nipples/breasts are not genitals in any species. That doesn’t even make sense, they’re to feed babies, any other benefits are secondary and certainly not universal. 

    "Boobs are genitalia"

    Good lord

    I mean, I’m a feminist but I do not want to live in a world where breasts are no longer sexual. I love my boobs, they make me feel incredibly sexy as a woman and they are one of the few parts of my body I actually have confidence in. I love them so much, I love how much they turn on my boyfriend. I just don’t want to walk around topless okay?

    good for you! it’s god damn amazing that you take pride in your boobs and that they turn your boyfriend on and that you enjoy that! but while it’s beneficial to you, to many other women it is nothing short of harmful and another tick on their list to feel uncomfortable over

    the over-sexualisation of breasts is leading to women being shamed. It’s leading to women being told that what should be feeding infants is an inappropriate sexual organ and it must be kept hidden. It’s making women feel  that if they don’t have a particular standard for their baby feeders and if their baby feeders are not round enough or perky enough or if their nipples aren’t just the right size, they are not allowed to feel proud of their tits because they don’t make guys’ dicks hard. That if they do have that standard of cute perky tits, their tits aren’t their property and they’re supposed to get whipped out on command of men for their sexual pleasure. That if they’re too well covered a woman is prudish, and if there’s too much cleavage a woman is a slut. That women and young girls shouldn’t be allowed to wear the clothing they feel confident and comfortable in because the upper half of that dress is going to distract your male coworkers and teachers and fellow students. The over sexualisation of breasts leads to women being made to feel objectified and too often even leads to verbal and physical attacks on women, which many women will be blamed for based on the age old question, “well what were you wearing?”

    it’s well and truly wonderful that you love your titties, friend. But the liberation of tits isn’t going to be harmful towards you and your partner’s sex life or your self confidence. The only thing that the liberation of tits is supposed to do is make more women confident that their breasts are natural, beautiful, and 100% their own

    I can’t believe we actually have to make this argument. Are breasts involved in sexual reproduction? No? THEN THEY AREN’T GENITALIA. GOD, PEOPLE ARE STUPID.

    Also, no one is telling anyone that they HAVE TO WALK AROUND TOPLESS. roll it the fuck back, buddy.

  4. slayboybunny:

    buzzfeed:

    The 31 Realest Tumblr Posts About Being A Women

    *stands up*

    *salutes*

    *applauds forever*

    wo ah i am on a buzzfeed article what a wild world

  5. Did you know?

    stfusexists:

    everyjoyitbrings:

    collectivecrack:

    White American males constitute only 33% of the population. Yet, they occupy approximately:

    • 80% of tenured positions in higher education
    • 80% of the House of Representatives
    • 80-85% of the U.S. Senate
    • 92%of Forbes 400 executive CEO-level positions
    • 90% of athletic team owners
    • 97.7% of U.S. presidents

    Good thing we solved sexism and racism u guise

  6. kaniehtiio:

    deadsmondmiles:

    mythicgamerx:

    deadsmondmiles:

    thanks to this shit storm im composing a letter to ubisoft instead of doing my homework so i can pass english

    I’m going to get hate for this but I need to speak my mind. I have personally done work on game programming and it is easier to animate a male character as opposed to a female character. Why? Because the body structure is different! Females look different from males. They move different, they act different. Besides, even if it was easier to animate females it still wouldn’t fit with the theme. The setting is during the French Revolution! One of the bloodiest time periods in history and women had almost no rights during this time period. I’m not trying to be sexist, I support gender equality, however if you want to get pissed at a great game company because the main character doesn’t have a pair of tits be my guest. I will be happily playing AC: Unity once I get a PS4.

    you really wanna do this buddy??? you really want to???????

    wouldn’t fit with the theme? do you even know a fucking thing about the french revolution? actually do you know anything about assassin’s creed because the whole fuckin point is fighting for freedom and i fail to see how playing as a woman would disprove that point. also do you know women’s history at all? women have always been on the forefronts of revolutions and social upheavals. ALWAYS. A L W A Y S. our history and our support and our SUCCESS has been erased time and time again but it’s still fucking there. time to read it, hun.

    people are pissed because ubisoft has animated females. they have an entire game featuring a woman and every co-op so far has had multiple female characters. they know how to fucking do it. women aren’t some kind of magical unicorn creature with fifty legs. 

    charlotte corday was executed by guillotine in 1793 for the assassination (WOMAN ASSASSIN RIGHT HERE) of jean paul marat. marat was a radical politician and journalist who was one of the most radical voices of the revolution. she stabbed him to death, in his bath tub. she posthumously name the angel of assassination. she testified that she carried out the assassination alone and that killing that one man would save the lives of 100,000 others.

    claire lacombe, or red rosa, was a founding member of the society of revolutionary republican women along with pauline leon. the group became so notorious, within just five months, that the national convention specifically banned WOMENS organisations. it was attended by up to 180 women. claire lacombe FOUGHT with the rebels in 1792 at the storming of tuileries where she was SHOT THROUGH THE ARM but carried on fighting anyway which earnt her the name “heroine of august tenth” and for her bravery she was awarded a civic crown. she was arrested in april 1794 and released august 1795. 

    olympe de gouges was a playwright feminist abolitionist and advocate for the improvement of conditions for slaves in the colonies. she wrote the declaration of the rights of women and the female citizen demanding woman have EQUAL rights to men, she challenged male-female inequality and and the male authority. she was excecuted by guillotine.

    pauline leon suggested the a female militia so women could protect their homes from counter revolutionary assaults. she requested that women were given permission to arm themselves with sabers, rifles, pikes and pistols as well as the privilege of drilling under the french guard. the request was denied. she co founded the society of revolutionary republican women with claire lacombe and when it was shut down moved onto be the leader of femmes sans culottes.

    theroigne de mericourt in 1789 was caricatured by the parisian royalist press as the female war chief and according to their pamphlets she assaulted the bastille and lead the womens march on versailles, fought soldiers, was to be found where unrest was greatest. by her own accounts she did none of these but did attend debates at the national assembly and in 1792 made a call for the creation of “legions of amazons” in order to protect the revolution. As part of her call, she claimed that the right to bear arms would transform women into citizens. she was arrested, publicly flogged and spent the rest of her life in an asylum. 

    there’s also the women’s march on versailles which was one of the earliest AND most significant events in the revolution and began because women were rioting over the high price of bread. 
    militant women carried the bathtub and blood stained shirt of the assassinated marat as part of his funeral procession.
    at the constitution of 1793 women were at the fore of the crown demanding bread and when their cries went unnoticed, the women went on a rampage, “sacking shops, seizing grain and kidnapping officials.”

    women had next to no rights PRE revolution but the rise of feminists during the revolution changed things. WOMEN WERE IMPORTANT. WOMEN FOUGHT AND WERE POLITICAL AND PHYSICAL AND WOMEN DID CONTRIBUTE TO THE REVOLUTION ON BOTH SIDE and i didn’t even write about everything. women played a very important role so stop pretending they didn’t. you can read more here and hell even wikipedia is good on this too.

  7. "It seems that when you want to make a woman into a hero, you hurt her first. When you want to make a man into a hero, you hurt… also a woman first."
  8. lierdumoa:

    ilovemaydayparade69:

    rubee:

    "why dont you just give him a chance"

    idk because im not physically or mentally attracted to him and ‘but he likes you’ or ‘but hes really nice’ isnt going to change the fact that im not interested

    Damn, I don’t think women know how much that really hurts

    First of all, fuck you. Women experience unrequited love all the time. ALL THE TIME. The difference is that women are are socialized to accept rejection when it is given, and recognize that being attracted to someone does not mean being owed affection or attention from the object of said attraction.

    Secondly, realize that you are hurting yourself. She is not hurting you. Because you are not actually interested in her at all. You are interested in your idea of her. And she can tell. That was chance #1. You blew it. You are upset for not getting what you want, and you haven’t even stopped to consider that perhaps the woman in question is simply not capable of giving it to you. She might be asexual or aromantic. She might be a lesbian. You might have approached her with a display of sexual dominance and she may in fact be naturally dominant herself, and attracted to sexual submissiveness. She might be joining the army tomorrow, and you’re taking precious time away from her that she plans to spend with her sister, and she can’t if she misses this train, so she doesn’t have time to stop and chat.

    Maybe you’ve worked with her for months, and you think you have a good idea of what she’s probably looking for in a man. You don’t. You know the face she puts on at work. You don’t know whether she puts on make-up to feel pretty, or because she’s afraid she won’t get that raise she desperately needs unless she caters to social norms for feminine attractiveness. You don’t know if she’s wearing her ex boyfriend’s boxer briefs underneath her jeans right now, imagining what it would be like to feel the weight of a dick between her legs, because she’s genderqueer, or trans, and it’s an ugly secret that eats at her/him/them, steeped in the fear of social stigma, basted in the grease of heteronormativity, and no one knows, not even her/his/their best friend. Certainly not you, the guy who passes by her cubicle twice a day, or orders the same latte from her stand at 8:53 every morning.

    You don’t know shit. Except what you’ve observed.

    For example, you observed that she refused to make eye-contact with you and closed off her body language. You ignored that, though. You kept asking. I doesn’t hurt to ask, right? You stood a little closer to her. You complimented her physical appearance, as though it were the only thing about her worth valuing. That was chance # 2. You blew it. She made her boundaries clear, and you made it clear that her boundaries don’t matter as long as you want something from her.

    The question is not whether women realize how much rejection hurts.

    You think women owe you something, simply because you want it from them. And we have to live in this world. We have to live in a world where men like you refuse to give us the basic dignity all human beings deserve, and respect that we have our own brains, full of our own desires and our own needs.

    You have the sheer GALL, to tell us how much it hurts YOU, that we aren’t catering our bodies and our minds and our lives to your desires. You deserve every bit of hurt your own sexist entitlement brings you.

    You are not a victim. You earned that pain. Own it.

  9. misanthrobot:

    stupidswampwitch:

    masooood:

    safeidgul:

    Why can’t there be a male hooter’s equivalent where male servers are shirtless and highly sexualized for their bodies and looks

    Male Strip clubs. You’re thinking of male strip clubs.

    No. Not a male strip club. A strip club is a strip club. I want a place called Cahones where waiters wear Speedos and are forced to stuff if they don’t fill out their uniform well enough. I want them to giggle for my tips. I want it to be so normalised and engrained in our culture that women bring their daughters there for lunch (because whaaaaaat the wings are good! Geeze sensitive much?) where they’ll give playful little nudges like, “Wouldn’t mind if you dad had those. Heh heh heh.” that their daughters don’t even understand but will absorb and start to assume is just the normal way grown up women talk about grown up men. I want to playfully ask my waiter if I can have extra nuts on my salad and for him to swat my arm with an Oh, you because he knows if he doesn’t his manager will yell at him. I want other men to pretend to like going there so I think they’re cool. I want to go to Cahones during my lunch break at work and when I come back and tell the other women in the office where I went they chuckle slightly and the men around us suddenly feel self conscious and they don’t know why.

    It’s cojones tho, but yeah.

  10. (I could not make this shit up)

    leupagus:

    My apartment has windows facing the street, meaning I can hear pretty much everything that happens on the sidewalk beneath them. And this morning, just as my side of the street was getting the cars cleared for street cleaning, I heard some dude outside go, “C’mon, I just want your number, is that so much to ask? You’re so pretty, you know?”

    Well, in light of recent conversations, I was like RED ALERT, and bustled my nosy butt outside to see what was up. Sure enough, a guy in his mid-to-late thirties had stopped his car, gotten out, and was now following a girl down the street. And when I say a girl, I mean a teenager.

    Now, I’m brave and stuff, but this guy had shown himself willing to go so far outside the socially acceptable boundaries of behavior that I was pretty sure if I called him on this he wouldn’t take it well, and I was weighing my options when, like an angel of mercy and goodness, a parking enforcement officer came rolling up and she got out. First she saw me and was like, “Is this your car?”

    And I was like, “It belongs to that guy down the street hassling that girl.”

    And bless this woman’s heart, she gave this great eyebrow and was like, “EXCUSE ME SIR, UNLESS YOU WANT A $75 TICKET I SUGGEST YOU MOVE.”

    I will give him credit for balls of steel, because he actually said, “Hold on one minute, I’m talking to my friend,” which, NOPE.

    Fortunately the officer is like, “Sure, I’ll wait a minute, and in the meantime I’ll be writing you this ticket.”

    So the dude goes grumbling back to his car, and of course he can’t park it anywhere nearby, so he drives off. In the meantime, I ask the girl if she wants to come inside for a minute to make sure the dude left, which she did, and sure enough DUDE CIRCLED AROUND THE BLOCK LOOKING FOR HER (I watched him while the girl was inside getting acquainted with my dog) before taking off. The girl is 18, she didn’t know the guy, and the whole time I was driving her to her brother’s house she kept trying to figure out what she’d done wrong.

    Not all men harass women. But all women - and girls - are harassed by men.

  11. "

    More than a few times I’ve had men say that I’m not “stuck up” like other women because I actually respond to them. This isn’t really a compliment to me so much as it’s a testament to my inability to stand my ground when it comes to men and dating. Also, more than a few times I’ve had negative experiences with trying to let a man down easily and being called a “bitch” or told that I’m irrational for not being interested in such a “good guy.”

    While a man is afforded subjectivity and the ability to choose who he is interested in (based on his personal proclivities… which are often informed by oppressive and irrational ideologies anyway) women are supposed to consent to being chosen by whatever nice enough man comes along first.

    The problem with this is that (like a man) I am an individual with individual thoughts and desires. I am not an algorithm. I don’t have a check list. There’s not a magical number of how many times a man must compliment me for him to be “nice” and for me to be enamored. And just because a man is nice to me doesn’t mean I want to date him!

    I know right, incredible! It’s not unlike how a man doesn’t decide that he wants to date a woman just because she’s nice to him.

    "
    Danielle @ oneblackgirlmanywords tells it like it is. Read the whole thing. 
  12. blue-author:

aka14kgold:

kateoplis:

Abramson salary was $84,000 less than her male predecessor
“As executive editor, Abramson’s starting salary in 2011 was $475,000, compared to Keller’s salary that year, $559,000. Her salary was raised to $503,000, and—only after she protested—was raised again to $525,000. She learned that her salary as managing editor, $398,000, was less than that of the male managing editor for news operations, John Geddes. She also learned that her salary as Washington bureau chief, from 2000 to 2003, was a hundred thousand dollars less than that of her successor in that position, Phil Taubman.”
The New Yorker

Wow, asserting her authority as editor AND demanding more equal wages?? What a bitch! No wonder they fired her!
No, seriously, no wonder—I’m fairly sure having such a strong woman around and in charge scared the shit out of the current Times board, who are fairly notoriously good ol’ Park Ave boys.

This is important, because when people chalk up wage disparities to the lesser-paid parties being “less assertive” or “less willing to negotiate for higher pay”, they’re coloring that unwillingness to confront one’s employer as being the cause of the disparity in how they’r treated, not the result of such a disparity.
The same social pressure that shapes women to be less inclined to put ourselves forward and ask for things shapes everyone to see women who do so as “pushy”, “bitchy”, and “bossy”. Women know that our demands are less likely to be treated as reasonable and more likely to be punished than are men’s.
This kind of subjective perception is also part of the racial pay disparity, as white people who step up and ask for something are considered brave, ambitious, and deserving and not, you know, lazy or demanding or greedy or angry. 

    blue-author:

    aka14kgold:

    kateoplis:

    Abramson salary was $84,000 less than her male predecessor

    As executive editor, Abramson’s starting salary in 2011 was $475,000, compared to Keller’s salary that year, $559,000. Her salary was raised to $503,000, and—only after she protested—was raised again to $525,000. She learned that her salary as managing editor, $398,000, was less than that of the male managing editor for news operations, John Geddes. She also learned that her salary as Washington bureau chief, from 2000 to 2003, was a hundred thousand dollars less than that of her successor in that position, Phil Taubman.”

    The New Yorker

    Wow, asserting her authority as editor AND demanding more equal wages?? What a bitch! No wonder they fired her!

    No, seriously, no wonder—I’m fairly sure having such a strong woman around and in charge scared the shit out of the current Times board, who are fairly notoriously good ol’ Park Ave boys.

    This is important, because when people chalk up wage disparities to the lesser-paid parties being “less assertive” or “less willing to negotiate for higher pay”, they’re coloring that unwillingness to confront one’s employer as being the cause of the disparity in how they’r treated, not the result of such a disparity.

    The same social pressure that shapes women to be less inclined to put ourselves forward and ask for things shapes everyone to see women who do so as “pushy”, “bitchy”, and “bossy”. Women know that our demands are less likely to be treated as reasonable and more likely to be punished than are men’s.

    This kind of subjective perception is also part of the racial pay disparity, as white people who step up and ask for something are considered brave, ambitious, and deserving and not, you know, lazy or demanding or greedy or angry. 

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